If you already have the best husband ever, keep reading anywayâ€¦ This advice could help the hopeless romantic friend in your life who thinks they will never find love. Because according to 49-year-old singer, dancer and actress, Jennifer Lopez, that friend may just need to look for someone over a certain age.
Tinder is a popular dating app and once in a while, they will put out episodes of a video series that doles out dating advice called â€œSwipe Sessions.â€� One of these episodes was hosted by Lopez who helped a 29-year-old country singer by the name of Brooke swipe through her potential matches.
Brooke was looking for a â€œguyâ€™s guyâ€� who can â€œchop wood and stuffâ€� even though she doesnâ€™t necessarily need wood chopped. So, Lopez knew her friend needed some guidance as she ventures into the dating world.
After sifting through Brookeâ€™s Tinder profile and learning that she is a country singer and lover of yoga and wine, Lopez suggested changing her profile to suggest that she is looking for something more serious. Then, she started analyzing all the guys she was being matched withâ€¦
Unimpressed, she finally stopped, looked at the screen and shared a debatable piece of advice.
â€œGuys until theyâ€™re 33 are really useless.â€� (1)
Relationship Expert: Lopez Advice Is Pretty Accurate
If someone isnâ€™t looking for commitment, then thatâ€™s a different story. But, for people who are looking for a long-term relationship, apparently age matters.
â€œIt can take men into their early 30s to establish their professional career and feel a sense of financial stability, which helps them feel more secure in life,â€� New York-based relationship expert Jane Greer told INSIDER. (1) â€œAs a result, this can give them the maturity that comes with accomplishment, experience, and success.â€�
Of course, this isnâ€™t true for all men. Some of you may have married your high school or college sweetheart long before the age of 30. It does seem true, however, that many boys finally become men upon entering their third decade.
Maybe theyâ€™ve lived enough life; maybe theyâ€™ve faced more trials and tribulations; maybe theyâ€™ve had a revelation after one too many unhealthy relationships.
â€œSometimes you see a guy whoâ€™s been in several relationships, but then, in his early 30s, suddenly he meets a woman and is ready to marry her.â€� (1)
Whatever the reason, something changes. In fact, researchers suggest this positive change is rooted in science. Neuroscientist Jay Giedd reminds us that the part of our brain that directly affects how we think (i.e., the cerebellum) continues to grow into the mid-20s while â€œpruning away unused connections and strengthening those that remainâ€� in our 30s. (2,3)
â€œAround age 30, a sense of acceptance begins to settle in,â€� wrote Ann Friedman, a columnist for The Cut. (4) â€œItâ€™s when many of us experience our first big career payoffs, and allow ourselves to exhale a little because for once it doesnâ€™t feel like weâ€™re building our lives from scratch.â€�
Do You Agree with Jennifer Lopez?
Whether you, too, think that all men under the age of 33 are useless, fair enough. What is important to realize is that you have self-worth, high standards, and deserve to be in a healthy, empowering relationship. The truth is, your relationships will get better because youâ€™re getting better. So keep working towards self-improvement and the rest (maybe even the love of your life) should fall into place.
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