Halloween has passed; you survived Thanksgiving, and nowâ€¦ Christmas is coming! Christmas is coming! And with that, so is a lot of spending.
Every single year, families will spend â€“ and, for some, arguably waste â€“ hundreds or thousands of dollars on toys. It doesnâ€™t help that Christmas is conveniently tucked between Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and Boxing Week either.
Forbes reported that in 2016, the average parent was prepared to spend over $1,700 over the holiday season. Personal finance writer, Maya Kachroo-Levine, highlighted how much of that sum was going towards their kids.
â€œParents are predicted to spend $495 per child this year, which is nearly #100 more than they spent [in 2015].â€� (1)
- 33% expect to spend at least $1000 on gifts
- 22% expect to spend between $500 and $999
- 29% expect gift spending to be between $100 and $499
- 3% plan to spend less than $100
Those are quite startling numbersâ€¦
Thatâ€™s why Oliver James, Britainâ€™s best-selling psychological author, thinks parents should be spending all that Christmas money on holidays instead. He argues, in fact, that children either do not want or value most of the gifts they receive.
â€œThe whole business of providing material commodities for kids â€“ in ever more expensive forms as they get older â€“ is entirely 100 percent, about propping up the industry that profits from it,â€� James says. (4)
â€œOn the other hand, family holidays are definitely valued by children, both in the moment and for long afterwards in their memory. So if youâ€™re going to spend money on something, itâ€™s pretty clear which option makes more sense.â€�
A psychology professor at Cornell University, Thomas Gilovich, has conducted a number of eye-opening studies about that very subject. He has concluded that humans derive happiness not from things, but experiences. (5)
Scientific Proof That Experiences Mean More Than Possessions
In a 2012 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Gilovich and research partner T.J. Carter wanted to find out what kind of purchases make us most happy. (6)
When it came to purchasing experiences versus possessions, they learned that people felt more regret about not attending concerts, for example, as opposed to not buying a piece of furniture.
Gilovichâ€™s 2014 study published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology found that what holds our social lives together is our experiences. During his research, he found that experiential purchases: (7,8)
- Enhance social relations more readily and effectively than material goods
- Form a bigger part of a personâ€™s identity
- Are evaluated more on their own terms and evoke fewer social comparisons than material purchases
Thatâ€™s Why Child James Emphasizes Spending Money on Family Holidays
Material gifts are temporary, whereas memories are timeless. Children may not appreciate things like nuanced cuisine, fine art, and rich cultural history. And thatâ€™s a mistake many parents make â€“ expecting their kids to love what they love about vacations. But James puts it beautifully:
â€œChildren see the world differently, though consumption for example: the way that French cafes have Organgina instead of Fanta is fascinating to kids, and details like that will stick with them for long after the holiday ends,â€� says James.
â€œGive a two-year-old a present and sheâ€™ll get absorbed in the box instead. Itâ€™s similar with children and travel. We should let them explore their own ways of finding wonder in their surroundings.â€�
Between parents who work full-time jobs and children who are school for long hours, time to foster health parent-child relationships has never been more valuable.
To make things more challenging, toys are increasingly accompanied by batteries and screens. As a result, seemingly thoughtful and intimate gifts are ironically distancing family members from each other.
Not all toys are bad!
Thatâ€™s not what James is saying. However, if you have never given your child an experience during the holiday season before, consider doing so this year.
â€œBecause, according to James, what children really value about holidays is the rare possibility they create for prolonged periods of playfulness with their parents.â€� (4)
Whether itâ€™s in your budget to hop on a plane or scout out a secret local spot, this Christmas could be an experience your kids will be unwrapping for life.
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