Hello mom-asphere,

I’m curious to get people’s opinions/advice on spacing of kiddos. My husband and I have been talking about how close in age we’d like to have kids (and, since we’re foster parents, we have more say in this than most people do!), and I’ve of two minds — I see a lot of benefits to having them be able to be friends and playmates for each other, very close in age, but I also think there are practical perks to having a 3-4 year old who can entertain themselves (albeit briefly) while you’re busy with a newborn.

Professionally, I’m also curious – does it seem to make more sense to have 3-4 unproductive years, professionally, rather than draw it out for 7-8 years of really small kids, when probably publishing/etc is more challenging?

What worked for you?