Don’t Panic

Pierre Van ZylFeatured, Featured Posts, heart wisdom, magic

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Don’t panic. You’re capable. You’re worthy. You’re supported. You’ve been through bad shit and sad shit and scary shit, too. And every single time, you’ve come through—even when you thought you wouldn’t survive, you clawed your way out of each and eve…

On Relationships

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I’m not an expert on relationships. I’m not sure I’m an expert on anything, but that’s a discussion for another day, perhaps. Regardless, I’m often asked for relationship advice—mostly because I’m good at holding space, but also because one of my supe…

Whose Rules are You Following?

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset

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Lately I’ve been sleeping in until 9—a luxury afforded to me since my 13 year old starting biking to school . I’ve been sleeping for 10 hours a night, thanks to cannabis. I’ve been taking it slow in the mornings, drinking coffee and drawing, pulling T…

On Self Love

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset, self-care

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Listen. It’s hard to learn how to love the shit out of yourself in a world that functions best when you don’t. It’s challenging to feel as though you’re enough and you have enough in a capitalistic, patriarchal society that thrives on convincing you ho…

On Ritual

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset, ritual, witchy things

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Every morning I sit in my favorite chair, surrounded by my plants, a cup of coffee in my hand, sage burning, my phone on airplane mode. I don’t check email or scroll through Instagram. I don’t put any pressure on myself to do anything—and instead give …

I haven’t spoken to my mom in 5 years

Pierre Van Zylfamily, heart wisdom, Mindset

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The older I get, the more I physically resemble my mother. I look in the mirror, and I see her face. This is complicated for me, because, by my own volition, I don’t have a relationship with her. From my youth I remember her show-stopping charisma—her …

I haven’t spoken to my mom in 5 years

Pierre Van Zylfamily, heart wisdom, Mindset

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The older I get, the more I physically resemble my mother. I look in the mirror, and I see her face. This is complicated for me, because, by my own volition, I don’t have a relationship with her. From my youth I remember her show-stopping charisma—her …

On Spiritual Growth

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Sometimes I just want everything to fuck right off. I don’t always *want* the drama, the stress, the WORK of having to process and manage every goddamn feeling and energetic exchange. Sometimes I want to numb and distract and cope, instead of explore w…

No One Freaked Out

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset

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I canceled plans and rescheduled meetings, and it was FINE. No one freaked out. Nothing imploded. Everyone was chill about the fact that I was sick and desperately needed to rest. And yet, prior to canceling plans and rescheduling meetings, I agonized….

I need more than love

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Lifestyle, magic, Mindset, witchy things

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I don’t believe that love is all we need. I need honesty. Loyalty. A shared value system. A willingness to talk about the hard things and stick around when things get messy. I need ride or die people in my life, and that’s not just about love. I don’t …

I Ran Home

Pierre Van Zylfeminism, Fitness, heart wisdom, Mindset

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Throughout my childhood, I was teased and bullied quite a bit. Being one of only two Persian kids at my elementary school (my sister being the other), my ancestry and name (among other things) were the source of many playground taunts. Growing up in LA…

Keep Breathing

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Lifestyle, Mindset

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Damnit this week has been hard. Yes, I know it’s only Wednesday—I said what I said. This. Week. Has. Been. Hard. I feel exhausted and depleted on every level. Everything is messy and in various states of disarray. I don’t have any answers, just an endl…

Have fun with your body

Pierre Van Zylbody image, heart wisdom, Mindset

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I hope that you’re having fun with your body. And if that’s not yet accessible to you, I hope that you’re learning to heal within your own skin—to reclaim that which belongs to you, and only you. And above all, I hope that you feel both supported and a…

Get out of your own damn way

Pierre Van ZylFitness, heart wisdom, Mindset

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Have you ever wanted something so badly, while simultaneously believing that you can’t have it? That you’ll never “get there?” That it’s just not possible for you? I got my first muscle up at 35 years old, with absolutely no gymnastics background, and …

3 Ways to Be a Better Empath

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, magic, witchy things

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The best part about being an empath is feeling everyone else’s feelings. The worst part is feeling everyone else’s feelings. As an empath, a healer, and a Highly Sensitive Person, it can be easy to be overwhelmed by other people’s emotions. Befor…

You’re a Queen & You Know it

Pierre Van Zylfeminism, heart wisdom, Lifestyle, magic

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PICTURE THIS: You’re so hype on your own damn life. You’re doing work that brings meaning to your life and adds value to others. You go to bed every night believing that you did enough—that you are enough. You’re well rested. Hydrated. Moisturized. Mag…

Becoming

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In every moment you are BECOMING —and in those moments you have a choice: to become who you think you’re supposed to be, based on societal standards of beauty, success, and status—or to become more of your authentic yourself, the version of you that sh…

The world is on fire

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom

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I sat in my car and cried before picking up my son last night. It was a rough Tuesday—the kind in which the Universe trolled me hard from multiple angles. Nothing went as planned. Technology was not my friend. My kid got injured at school (he’s okay). …

Your Joy

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Lifestyle, magic, Mindfulness, Mindset

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You’re allowed to feel your own damn joy. It might feel foreign. Or selfish. Or scarce. Or indulgent. Or uncomfortable—at first. Maybe you’re unaccustomed to joy because you’ve been steeped in shadows. Maybe you’ve seen too much pain. Maybe j…

The Last Five Years

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Lifestyle, Mindset

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Five years ago, if you’d told me I’d be reading tarot for a living, I would’ve laughed right in your face. A lot can change in five years, five weeks, five minutes. Five years ago, for example, I didn’t know I was marrying a sociopathic, abusiv…

The Liminal Space

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Lifestyle, magic, Mindfulness, Mindset

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Sometimes I need to be reminded of who I am. There are periods—days, weeks even—when I feel off kilter, untethered, floating above myself, wandering in the void. Lately I’ve been tired—soul tired, bone tired. I’ve felt the discomfort of being…

On Fear & Imposter Syndrome

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I googled, “how to start a blog.â€� It was 2008 and I was itching for a creative outlet. After years of building a successful personal training business, I realized that although I loved my work, I had neglected my creativity for far too long. I&#821…

My Menses does not apologize

Pierre Van Zylbody image, feminism, heart wisdom, magic, Mindset

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I bled right through my favorite pants. You know the ones—gold, high waisted, flowy, lookin’ like the sun materialized into a garment so comfortable, so capable that you never want to take them off—the ones I wear pretty much every damn day, …

On other people’s opinions

Pierre Van Zylbody image, feminism, heart wisdom, Lifestyle, magic

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What I know about confident people is this: They show up in their fullness, no matter what anyone thinks. It’s not that they don’t care what other people think, rather that they are so secure in themselves, their magic, and the way they sho…

Pretty Okay

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset

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“Pretty okay.â€� From 2015-2017 I traversed what I hope will be the heaviest shadow phase I will encounter—an amalgamation of my ex husband’s multiple affairs, my debilitating back injury, and everything that accompanied those traumas. It was a c…

Misaligned

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness

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The universal connection to all things—earth and cosmos, human and spirit, the deeper sense of knowing that resides within us all—it’s always available to us. We are the co-collaborators of our experience of this earthly realm, hand in hand with …

ON MORTALITY

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness

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In my bones I know this body will live but once. This thought, with great potential to produce worry and angst, crosses my mind at least once a day. But contrary to its seeming morbidity, it propels me to be easy. Be present. Be fully engaged and speak…

Everything must die

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset, witchy things

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The human tendency to cling to things past their expiration date is a perverse form of suffering that is born from the fear of that which is perpetually unknown—we hold on because we think we need certainty and permanence and all manner of fairy tale…

Heartbreak Lessons

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset

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My heart, resilient and relentless creature that she is, broke and repaired herself a myriad times between 2013 and 2017. If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, you probably know I was married—and it didn’t go exactly …

Be Your Own Hype Woman

Pierre Van Zylbody image, heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset

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One of the most important roles you can play in your life is that of your own hype woman. You have to think you’re fabulous, even and especially when you’re knee deep in the messy stuff. You’ve got to give yourself compliments, recognize yo…

A woman is

Pierre Van Zylfeminism, heart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset

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A woman is a creature of pure alchemy. She is both strong and soft. Loving and tenacious. Tolerant and replete with boundaries. Ethereal and grounded. Emotional and unshakable. Backbone and bosom. An empath and a healer who protects her energy against …

Bury a body with me

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset

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An incomprehensive list of qualities I look for in the human beings with whom I surround myself, in no particular order: Encourage me to shine—to manifest my dreams, to breathe in every moment of joy and accept that with bliss there also comes strugg…

Go ahead and have a sucky day

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindfulness, Mindset

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You’re allowed to have sucky days. Despite what the “good vibes only” crew would have you believe, sucky days are normal. They’re inevitable. And they’re your gatdamn right. You’re under no obligation to “power throughâ€� …

Be more confident in 30 seconds

Pierre Van Zylbusiness, heart wisdom, Mindset

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As a business coach and lightworker, confidence is a topic that comes up in my work pretty often. How do you cultivate it? Why do some people seem so much more confident than others? What is it that confident people have that those who lack confidence…

The Blast Radius

Pierre Van Zylheart wisdom, Mindset

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I filed for divorce this month. I was about to add “finally,â€� but the truth is that these things take time, as I’m sure many of you know. There are papers to fill out, photos to tear, and drawers to empty. I’m starting to feel ready to talk abo…

Authenticity is the only way

Pierre Van Zylbusiness, Featured Posts, feminism, heart wisdom, Mindset

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Authenticity is a topic that comes up often in my work. It’s highly relevant to our business, our relationships, and the way in which we show up in our everyday lives. I often get asked, “How do you learn how to show up authentically?&#8221…

Autonomy: A short story

Pierre Van Zylbody image, feminism, heart wisdom

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“Damn, your hair grows so fast,â€� he said. Close to 2 inches of silver this time. It’s been 7 weeks since my last visit. Orlando has been my colorist for the past few years. I first came to see him when I was dying my hair shades of purple, blue, …